Today I begin a month-long series on marriage. I want to spend the next 31 days focusing on my marriage and I am challenging YOU to spend a little time on yours! I am joining Write 31 Days for a blogging challenge. I will be sharing little bits of our story and tips for growing closer as a couple.
If you want a strong house that stands the storms of life, start with a solid foundation. Jesus Christ is that strong foundation in a marriage. All the answers you need for your marriage are found in God’s Word. What does the Bible say about marriage?
- Become one.
For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother, and be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh. Genesis 2:24
Not two people co-existing, not roommates, but ONE. Two people, blended into one, yet still individuals. Doesn’t God think of the best things?! This means you don’t carry on with your plans for your life as if it only concerns you. You stop and discuss things with your husband. (I’m writing to wives, primarily, although much applies to both. ) Career, vacations, days out, evenings, weekends. You build a life together – not two separate lives that intersect over dinner.
2. Submit to your husband.
Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the church, He Himself being the Savior of the body. 24 But as the church is subject to Christ, so also the wives ought to be to their husbands in everything. Ephesians 5:22-24
Oh boy. Here we go, right?! No one likes these verses. But there they are. We could try to explain them or just avoid them altogether, but there they are. I believe that it is a clear as can be, that wives are to submit to their husbands. Oh yes, I know all the excuses and wild for-examples. For the record; no, I do not think you need to submit to your husband if he asks you to sin. But that is the rare exception, isn’t it? Mostly, we just want an excuse to live the way we want, not submitting to anyone.
And that’s all I have to say about that.
3. Respect our husband.
Respect is such a powerful thing. I mean, it can change a person’s behavior! If you don’t believe me, start to purposefully show respect to your husband. See what happens. If you haven’t respected him till now, you may be surprised at how he begins to love you. Respect begets love.
You respect him – he will love you. Shouldn’t he love you first? Shouldn’t he have to earn your respect? Yes, in a way. But even if you can’t respect him as a person, you can respect his position. God has placed him as the one responsible in your marriage, so respect that position.
4. Love each other.
Be devoted to one another in brotherly love; give preference to one another in honor; Romans 12:10
Love each other fervently. Love each other the way you desire to be loved. Be understanding. Be gentle. Overlook small things. Serve. Set your mind to love your husband well. Ask God for wisdom in this, too. Every day, get up and ask God “How can I show my husband genuine love today?” Do this for 31 days, and I believe you will find a difference in your heart and attitude.
Won’t you join me for the next 31 days, as we look at some ways to deepen and strengthen our marriages?
Comment with one thing that you feel is essential to a strong, Godly marriage. I’d love to hear from you!
Today’s challenge: Look up and read 5 verses about marriage in the Bible. We must begin reading our Bibles again. No matter how much we respect Christian leaders, we must start listening to God. Spend a few minutes in prayer, asking God to show you what He thinks about marriage.
Day 2 -Committment Day 17– Romance vs. Love
Day 3 – What is Love Day 18
Day 4 – he’s changed! Day 19
Day 5 – Happiness Day 20
Day 6 – Finances Day 21
Day 7 – Kids Day 22
Day 8 – in-laws Day 23
Day 9 – Church disagreements Day 24
Day 10 -Big stuff Day 25
Day 11 -Introvert vs. extrovert Day 26
Day 12 -READ THIS! Day 27
Day 13 – Asking for help Day 28
Day 14 – roles Day 29
Day 15 -Disagreements (fights) Day 30
Day 16 – Liking him Day 31