You want to connect with your child, but you don’t know where to start. Maybe you didn’t grow up with siblings, maybe you didn’t have a close relationship with your own mother. Anyways, you aren’t sure how to go about building those connections.
When I became a mom, I didn’t know how! I thought connecting would come naturally, like eating cake. But as it turns out, it can be hard. Maybe it’s just my independent nature. I like to be left alone to read a book, take a walk, or whatever. I am somewhat of an introvert, so I can handle alone-ness quite well.
But to be a friend, one must step outside of their comfortable space, and step into the life of another. And this was where I got hung up.
“But your own kids?! What is wrong with you?!”
I don’t know. Maybe I am more of an introvert than I thought. Maybe I am selfish.
Or maybe you struggle with this, too??
One easy way to build connection with your child
One easy way I have learned to connect with my kids, has been to laugh with them. (not at them!) Who cares if their jokes are corny or their stories oft-repeated? I just laugh with them!
We laugh at silly pictures we find online, we laugh at corny jokes and puns (latest obsession!), we laugh at pretty much anything we can. Now, I am the first to say “cut the foolishness”, when it careens off into potty-talk or just extreme foolishness. After all, God’s Word tells us that foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child…
“Foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child;
The rod of discipline will remove it far from him.” Proverbs 22:15
So, we sure don’t want to encourage foolishness. But happy giggles, clean fun and lots of laughter – oh, this is good for the soul!
Look for humor
I purposely look for funny things to share with my kids, so we can laugh about it together. Silly memes, funny cat videos, new dad-jokes. There is something about laughing together that builds a bond.
I encourage you to try it. Google “clean kid jokes” and you will find some great ones. Surprise your kids with some gut-busting humor today. 😉
Do you like to joke and laugh with your kids? Is it hard for you to connect, or what things do you do, to build that connection with your child?